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		<pubDate>Mon, 24 Dec 2018 17:04:29 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[Brian Drayton is starting a new series of historical examples of Quakers giving ministerial advice and training: As I am working on a revision of my book on the Quaker ministry, I am revisiting historical accounts of times when a minister was given guidance (eldering, oversight, nurture, discipline). As part of that work, I will [&#8230;]]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>Brian Drayton is starting a new series of historical examples of Quakers giving ministerial advice and training:</p>
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  As I am working on a revision of my book on the Quaker ministry, I am revisiting historical accounts of times when a minister was given guidance (eldering, oversight, nurture, discipline). As part of that work, I will from time to time post “case studies” on this blog.
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		<title>Skeletons (not even) in the closet</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 22 May 2018 10:47:36 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[This is a bit a grusome story, though not as shocking at it should be. Louellen White, a researcher looking for burial records of Native American children stumbled on a&#160;Native American skull just sitting in a display case&#160;of a old Philadelphia meeting. As White searched for graveyard ledgers in the library — crammed with stuffed [&#8230;]]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>This is a bit a grusome story, though not as shocking at it should be. Louellen White, a researcher looking for burial records of Native American children stumbled on a&nbsp;<a href="https://www.philly.com/philly/news/483072571.html">Native American skull just sitting in a display case</a>&nbsp;of a old Philadelphia meeting.</p>
<blockquote><p>As White searched for graveyard ledgers in the library — crammed with stuffed birds, clothing, shells and books — she came upon the skull. Her legs wobbled. And her stomach dropped. Arsenault-Cote offered advice and reassurance. “You’re out there looking for them, and now they’re showing themselves to you,” she told White. “He’s been waiting a long time.” Historically, Philadelphia Quakers were “inconsistent friends” to Indians, engaged in the same colonizing projects as other faiths while seeing themselves as uniquely able to educate natives.</p></blockquote>
<p>Inconsistent is an apt word. Paula Palmer has been tracing the history of <a href="https://www.friendsjournal.org/quaker-indian-boarding-schools/">Quaker Indian Boarding Schools</a>: high-minded enterprises that often forcably stripped heritage from their pupils in ways that were as culturally imperial as they were unaware.</p>
<p>Byberry Meeting <a href="https://digital.librarycompany.org/islandora/object/digitool%3A96167">dates to the 1690s</a>&nbsp;and the meetinghouse grounds are <a href="https://hiddencityphila.org/2011/09/abolitionists-dreamland-2/">full of abolitionist history</a>. The skull was apparently dug up in the mid-nineteenth century as part of a nearby canal project and is thought to have come to the meetinghouse as part of a collection from a shuttered historical society. Its presence on the shelf represents the attitudes of Friends many decades ago who thought nothing of placing a Lenape skull in a case.&nbsp;There’s also the sad subtext that the meeting library is said to be so unused that most of the meeting’s contemporary members had no idea it was there. It’s a shame that it took an outside researcher to notice the skeletons in our display case.</p>
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		<title>Developing a healing ministry</title>
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		<pubDate>Tue, 24 Apr 2018 00:49:26 +0000</pubDate>
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					<description><![CDATA[I’ve enjoyed John Jeremiah Edminster’s comments over the years, which is one reason I was happen to get the submission that became The Cost of a Healing Gift. It starts with the story of having a gift of ministry recognized but what I like even more is that he talks about his journey exploring and [&#8230;]]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>I’ve enjoyed John Jeremiah Edminster’s comments over the years, which is one reason I was happen to get the submission that became <a href="https://www.friendsjournal.org/cost-healing-gift/">The Cost of a Healing Gift</a>. It starts with the story of having a gift of ministry recognized but what I like even more is that he talks about his journey exploring and developing it. What’s surprising is that is he’s far from a purist:</p>
<blockquote><p>we went to weekend training workshops; we read the writings of Christian healers; shamanic healers; and practitioners of Reiki, traditional Chinese medicine, Ayurveda, and homeopathy. I longed to be able to inspect people’s etheric and astral bodies, their <em>chakras</em> and <em>marmas</em>, with a diagnostician’s eye. So long as it involved no straying from Christ, I aspired to know how to mobilize healing virtues in plant spirits, minerals, colors, and sounds, and how to recognize “holy” places.</p></blockquote>
<p>Some of this reminds me of the wonderful work of the eighteen-century Friend <a href="https://en.wikipedia.org/wiki/Samuel_Bownas">Samuel Bownas</a>, whose book <a href="https://pendlehill.org/product/description-qualifications-necessary-gospel-minister-advice-ministers-elders-among-people-called-quakers/">A Description of the Qualifications Necessary to a Gospel Minister</a> is full of very useful advice on ministry and warnings about pitfalls—romantic attachments, undue politicization.</p>
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		<title>Black with a capital B</title>
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					<description><![CDATA[It’s been a long-running debate in editorial circles: whether to capitalize ‘black’ and ‘white’ in print publications when referring to groups of people. I remember discussions about it in the early 1990s when I worked as a graphic designer at a (largely White) progressive publishing house. My official, stylesheet-sanctioned answer has been consistent in every [&#8230;]]]></description>
										<content:encoded><![CDATA[<p>It’s been a long-running debate in editorial circles: whether to capitalize ‘black’ and ‘white’ in print publications when referring to groups of people. I remember discussions about it in the early 1990s when I worked as a graphic designer at a (largely White) progressive publishing house. My official, stylesheet-sanctioned answer has been consistent in every publication I’ve worked for since then: lowercase. But I remain unsatisfied.</p>
<p>Capitalization has lots of built-in quirks. In general, we capitalize only when names come from proper nouns and don’t concern ourselves about mismatches. We can write about “frogs and salamanders and Fowler’s toads” or “diseases such as cancer or Alzheimer’s.” Religious terms are even trickier: there’s the Gospel of Luke that is part of the gospel of Christ. In my Quaker work, it’s surprising how often I have to go into a exegesis of intent over whether the writer is talking about a capital‑L divine&nbsp;Light or a more generic lower-case lightness of being. “Black” and “white” are both clearly lowercased when they refer to colors and most style guides have kept it that way for race.</p>
<p>But seriously? We’re talking about more than color when we use it as a racial designation. This is also identity. Does it really make sense to write about South Central L.A. and talk about its “Koreans, Latinos, and blacks?” The counter-argument says that if capitalize Black, what then with White? Consistency is good and they should presumably match, except for the reality check: Whiteness in America has historically been a catch-all for non-coloredness. Different groups are considered “White” in different circumstances; many of the most-proudly White ethnicities now were colored a century ago. Much of the swampier side of American politics has been reinforcing racial identity so that out-of-work Whites (codename: “working class”) will vote for the interests of White billionaires rather than out-of-work people of color (codename: “poor”) who share everything but their melatonin level. All identities are incomplete and surprisingly fluid when applied at the individual level, but few are as non-specific as “White” as a racial designation.</p>
<p>Back in the 1990s we could dodge the question a bit. The <a href="https://www.friendsjournal.org/style/">style guide for my current publication</a> notes “lc, but substitute ‘African American’ in most contexts.” Many progressive style sheets back in the day gave similar advice. In the ebb and flow of preferred identity nomenclature, <em>African American</em> was trending as the more politically correct designation, helped along by a strong endorsement from Jesse Jackson. <em>Black</em> wasn’t quite following the way of <em>Negro</em> into obsolescence, but the availability of an clearly capitalized alternative gave white progressives an easy dodge. The terms also perhaps subtly distinguished between those good African Americans who worked within in the system from those dangerous&nbsp;radicals talking about Black Power and reparations.</p>
<p>The Black Lives Matter movement has brought Black back as the politically bolder word. Today it feels sharper and less coy than African American. It’s the better punch line for a thousand voices shouting rising up outside the governor’s mansion. We’ve arrived at the point where <em>African American</em> feels kind of stilted. It’s as if we’ve been trying a bit too hard to normalize centuries of slavery. We’ve got our Irish Americans with their green St Paddy’s day beer, the Italian Americans with their pasta and the African Americans with their music and… oh yes, that unfortunate slavery thing (wait for the comment: “oh wasn’t that terrible but you know there were Irish slaves too”). All of these identities scan the same in the big old melting pot of America. African American is fine for the broad sweep of history of a museum’s name but feels coldly inadequate when we’re watching a hashtag trend for yet another Black person shot on the street. When the megaphone crackles out “Whose lives matter?!?” the answer is “Black Lives Matter!” and you know everyone in the crowd is shouting the first word with a capital B.</p>
<p>Turning to Google: The Columbia Journalism Review has a nice piece on the nuances involved in capitalization, “<a href="http://www.cjr.org/analysis/language_corner_1.php">Black and white: why capitalization matters</a>.” This <a href="https://muse.jhu.edu/article/2793#authbio">2000 lecture abstract</a> by Robert S. Wachal flat-out states that “the failure to capitalize Black when it is synonymous with African American is a matter of unintended racism,” deliciously adding “to put the best possible face on it.” In 2014, The <em>NYTimes</em> published Temple University prof Lori L. Tharps ’s convincing argument, “<a href="https://www.nytimes.com/2014/11/19/opinion/the-case-for-black-with-a-capital-b.html">The Case for Black With a Capital B</a>.” If you want to go historical, this <a href="http://www.wordwizard.com/phpbb3/viewtopic.php?f=7&amp;t=6722&amp;p=51406#p51397">thread on shifting terms by Ken Greeenwald on a 2004 <em>Wordwizard</em> forum</a> [sadly gone and unfindable on Archive.org!] is pure gold.</p>
<p>And with that I’ll open up the comment thread.</p>
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