Steven was *that guy* when he joined Friends, combative and judgy about other people’s ministry. In retrospect, he wishes his meeting’s clearness committee had laid down the line when he joined. Even after talking with him I’m a little skeptical and hope they saw something in his initial arrogance that was ready to be overturned by Quaker experience.
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What does it mean to be a member of a Quaker meeting?
May 2, 2024
Friends Journal’s May issue on “Membership” is out. In my opening column I talk about some of the different types of members, official and unofficial:
As the clerk of a small meeting, I find myself frequently juggling these multiple categories of membership. When we had plumbing issues a few months ago, there were lots of emails with a core half-dozen regulars who I can depend on to help with logistics and contacts with local contractors (this group is so consistent that when I go to send a message to one, my email program asks me if I want to include all the others).
When there’s an event coming up, the email list expands to include a small group of recent newcomers who make it to worship a few times a month. Every so often I look over this list to see if there’s someone who’s dropped away, and I’ll take a minute to write them a special email asking how they are and inviting them to attend. I would hate for a semi-regular to drop away and think we hadn’t noticed.
There’s also a wide constellation of people who attend once in a proverbial blue moon. Some are members of nearby meetings who occasionally hit us up for a change of pace. Others are local history buffs who will come to hear a particular speaker but make sure to come early because they like their once-a-year Quaker worship. Few of these visitors will ever become regulars but they probably know someone who might, and their word-of-mouth recommendation could help connect a new seeker with our small band.
When it’s time to send out the annual fundraising appeal, I’ll reach out to another, rather special class of members, those at a distance, many of whom I’ve never met. They might hail from one of the founding families of the meeting; perhaps they grew up there themselves and have fond memories. It might be easy to forget about these members but that would be a mistake, as they remind us of the long line of faithful servants who have kept this special community going in the past.
“A Membership That Is Ever Flowing”
I even give a shoutout to the red-shouldered hawk family living in one of our sycamore trees.
Looking back in the archives, we’ve been putting out an issue on membership every four years: Membership and the Generation Gap in 2012, Almost Quaker in 2016, Membership and Friends in 2020. I’m actually surprised at the clockwork precision of our issues, but there’s a good reason we keep coming back to it. The definition of who “we” are is an essential part of our self-identification as Friends. Pretty much everything we do (or fail to do) reflects our implicit assumptions about who’s in and who’s out. Many, perhaps most, of the debates that roil Friends have membership as an element.
Links
May 2, 2024
In 2020, online worship went from a fringe novelty to a mass phenomenon. It’s definitely an option that’s here to stay and British Friends have now integrated one online worship group fully into the monthly meeting structure (has any other yearly meeting done this already?). It’ll be fascinating to see how this continues to develop.
I was remiss in sharing the March Quakers Today podcast, which looked at Quakers, Birds, and Justice. Friends have long been especially interested in the natural world. One of the interviewees is Rebecca Heider, who wrote A Quaker Guide to Birdwatching in last month’s issue of FJ.
Rightwing Quaker-lovers in the Washington Post
April 15, 2024
It’s so bizarre that some of the people most rocking the old do-no-wrong Quaker mythologies today are non-Quaker political conservatives. Exhibit A has to be Christian nationalist Abby Abildness’s obsession with William Penn but this week The Washington Post profiled “anti-woke” dingbat Kali Fontanilla (non paywalled link).
She told her students how Quakers formed some of the first anti-slavery organizations in American history. How Quakers boycotted sugar, cotton and other goods produced through slave labor. She spoke about how Quakers lacked official clergy and advocated spiritual equality for men and women.
She did not mention that 19th-century slaveholding Quakers sometimes offered financial compensation to the enslaved people they freed. Or that, in 2022, British Quakers committed to make reparations for their past involvement in the transatlantic slave trade and colonialism.
Asked about this, Kali said in an interview that she knows not all Quakers were perfect, and that some owned slaves, but that her lesson was meant to give a contrast and a balance to the “overemphasis” on reparations coming from the left. She also noted that some Quakers have become “very left-leaning now.”
So does this mean we’ve retconned the Underground Railroad as a right-leaning enterprise? Perhaps. I think intentionally confusing political terms like left and right and playing dumb about history of U.S. political parties changing positions is part of the so called “anti-woke” agenda. It also an attempt to delegitimize modern-day Friends who might a) know their history (surprise!, there were eighteenth century Friends advocating reparations) and b) have well-informed and contrary opinions.
I’m glad the article does actually push back at some of the Fontanilla’s half-truths but it’s bad journalism to put the counter arguments near the end of the article where casual readers might miss them.
It’s even worse journalism to not have bothered to interview a Quaker historian. When profiling someone spewing inaccurate information, it’s common journalistic practice to let them go on for the first three or so paragraphs — enough time for them to incriminate themselves — and then bring in some experts to provide a series of quotes that will take down the preceding nonsense. Just a few minutes on the phone with a legit historian of early Quaker slaveholding and abolition — and some better pacing — would have made this a far better article. The mainstream press really needs to commit to practice aggressively fact-based reporting, even on throw-away profile articles like this, even if it risks being called woke.
As I’ve said many times before, there’s a lot of lot of things to be proud of in Quaker history but we’ve also gotten a lot of things wrong. Our positions on issues like slavery, native relations, and prison reform all have had mixed results. In the past it was common for Friends to over-emphasize and over-mythologize the good, as these modern-day non-Quakers continue to do. Nowadays some Friends over-emphasize the bad history, which also has its problems. I think it’s important to embrace both so we can understand how our traditions have led us to past discernments that were radically liberatory and also how our process has backfired on a number of issues.

John Andrew Gallery: The Gospel Model of Fatherly Love
April 15, 2024
I got to talk with frequent Friends Journal author John Andrew Gallery this week. His latest article for us explores a gospel model of parenthood. I most appreciated his take that many of the figures in the parables were not necessarily metaphorical fill-ins for God but faithful people already living in the power of the kingdom. I’ll be chewing on his take on the prodigal son’s forgiving father for awhile.
There’s a page in Friends Journal with other recent author chats. You can subscribe to the Friends Journal YouTube channel and watch interviews going back to 2011 all our Quaker Author Chat playlist.
Links
April 14, 2024
We’re looking for articles on relationships for the September issue of Friends Journal—family relationships, romantic ones, mentorships, or spiritual Friends.
Pendle Hill’s The Seed podcast has a great interview with Adria Gulizia this week. Some good stuff. Here’s a sample: “Petitions and demands is how the world works. That’s how the political system works. That’s not how the religious Society of Friends is supposed to work. And yet, they felt like the stakes are too high to do things the Quaker way. ‘We can’t do it the Quaker way.’ ”
Really great article in The Verge about the cables that route internet traffic across the oceans and the people who keep them in repair. Well written, amazingly illustrated, with gripping personal stories.
Sources of spiritual power
March 21, 2024
Craig Barnett on types and sources of power for Friends, modern and classic.
Modern Quaker culture places a strong emphasis on what Shinran would have called ‘self power’ — political activism, the effort to embody ethical values in our daily lives, and the conscientious performance of social responsibilities.… Perhaps surprisingly, the original Quaker inspiration was strongly focussed on ‘other power’. It was faith in the Inward Guide, rather than their own efforts, that early Friends relied on to guide their lives and to endure suffering and persecution. This Inward Guide, Teacher, Light or Christ was understood as something apart from our own resources: it was the presence and activity of God within each person.
In a surprise to no one, I’m a fan of using the inward power as a guide toward outward action, but of course they’re two sides the same coin. As we find our inward spiritual teacher, our lives begin to conform to right living, which in turn helps us to be more sensitive to spiritual prompts. It’s a virtuous circle that brings us closer to the Spirit and also changes what us moderns call our “lifestyle.”
I started off as a peace advocate in my late teens, spurred into deciding issues of violence and force in part because of family pressure to enlist in the naval academy. As I started to explore communities of peace I kept running into Quakers. I sensed that there was something more to their motivation than just right-politics and it was that spiritual grounding that drew me in. Nowadays I see a lot of Quaker political action that doesn’t use a vocabulary of faith. I trust that the Friends engaged in the work are being guided and strengthened by what Barnett describes as “the other power” but I worry that we lose the moral force of spiritual witness when we don’t articulate the spiritual underpinnings. Are we embarrassed by the weirdness of our spirituality? Do we think it will put off potential supporters? Unpracticed in its articulation?
transitionquaker.blogspot.comQuaker dreaming
February 7, 2024
A great article by Marcelle Martin in this month’s Friends Journal: Quaker Dreams. I love the story of Margaret Fell being prepared for the wild entrance of George Fox by way of a dream. And Robert Pyle’s image-rich dream that led him to abolitionism is truly amazing. I also appreciate Martin’s exploration of more recent Quaker dream work. I interviewed her this week in an FJ Author Chat: