Be Ready to Answer the Phone

August 20, 2026

Thoughts on the sur­prise Tru­itt fam­i­ly vis­it yes­ter­day, because I know Quak­ers can be real­ly real­ly bad at this… Make sure you have a web­site that lists a phone num­ber that rings through to a real per­son in real time. One that also lists an email that will be prompt­ly read and answered. This event came togeth­er pret­ty fast. From the first phone call from town­ship offi­cial Sta­cy Webb late Tues­day after­noon to my unlock­ing the meet­ing­house doors was about 24 hours.

I was on a video call when Stacy’s first call came in so I had to let it go to voice­mail. So also have voice­mail set up. After my pre­vi­ous call end­ed I was able to reply to Sta­cy’s email and then fol­lowup with a quick call to con­firm details. This was one less detail she had to wor­ry about in an event with lots of mov­ing parts. (In addi­tion to a half dozen Tru­itt fam­i­ly mem­bers we had the may­or, deputy may­or, town­ship man­ag­er, a police liai­son, and a com­mu­ni­ca­tions staffer with a cam­era. That’s a lot of peo­ple to coor­di­nate.) In a lull in the event, Sta­cy told me it was great that she find and reach some­one at Crop­well Meet­ing so easily.

I know com­mu­ni­ca­tion can be hard but we need to be acces­si­ble. I’ve been ghost­ed SO MANY TIMES when try­ing to call or email Quak­er meet­ings. And it’s not just the small ones that don’t get back to me. Some­times meet­ings with paid office staff also don’t return mes­sages. Crop­well uses a Google Voice num­ber to for­ward phone calls to my per­son­al cell and emails also auto­mat­i­cal­ly for­ward to me. It’s not over­whelm­ing, not in the least — I let things for­ward to voice­mail when I need to and I have ringers turned off at night. But because Crop­well set this up even before I became involved, I’ve been able to respond to inquiries quick­ly, once even as I was dri­ving to meet­ing on Sun­day morn­ing (don’t wor­ry, I pulled over). Peo­ple already think we’re extinct. Don’t give them more rea­sons to think that’s true.

Truitt Family Visits Meeting

August 20, 2026

I had a won­der­ful time play­ing host for a vis­it by an old Crop­well Meet­ing fam­i­ly that was vis­it­ing the area this week. The Tru­itts were a free Black fam­i­ly in Delaware who joined self-emancipating enslaved peo­ple in that state and on Mary­land’s East­ern Shore to set­tle among South Jer­sey Quak­ers in the ear­ly 1800s. The high­light was def­i­nite­ly 103 year old Mar­garet Adele McGee, who told sto­ries of wor­ship­ing at Crop­well in the 1920s!

Philosophers Rediscovering Plainness and Integrity in an Always-Online World

August 12, 2026

I love it when cul­tur­al essay­ists redis­cov­er a core Quak­er obser­va­tion about plain­ness and human nature and give it a new name. Remem­ber a few that’s ago when “norm­core” became a thing?

Now we have “uni-context,” the idea that our online social lives bleed into all of our dif­fer­ent net­works (think: friends, work col­leagues, roman­tic inter­ests) so much that the net­works have been flat­tened; the “con­text” has “col­lapsed” (there’s a whole Wikipedia post on this). The refine­ment of this idea into “uni-context” comes from Agnes Callard, a UChica­go prof. Where once we could show dif­fer­ent faces to dif­fer­ent audi­ences, now every­one sees all.

First off, I’m not sure I real­ly buy it from a cul­tur­al tech per­spec­tive. The orig­i­nal Face­book ide­al of wide social graphs and pub­lic accounts feels like a dinosaur. I picked up this arti­cle from Jason Kot­tke, who notes that “blogs have glob­al con­text.” Twen­ty years ago, yes, many of us were liv­ing very pub­lic online lives — or at least made an image of our­selves that was very acces­si­ble on blogs and in net­works like the OG image-sharing net­work Flickr, which default­ed to pub­lic access. 

I don’t think that’s the case any­more. Gen Z is most­ly absent from pub­lic spaces like Face­book and usu­al­ly keeps pret­ty locked-down accounts. The app that has come to define the 2020s is Tik­Tok (and its clones), which is a high­ly per­for­ma­tive space where most of us con­sume, not cre­ate. I had a great after-meeting talk with two younger Quak­ers this week­end about out­reach. Most of their dis­cus­sions hap­pen on var­i­ous Dis­cords, net­works so pri­vate you gen­er­al­ly can’t even find out about par­tic­u­lar “serv­er” except through word of mouth. When I asked them how inter­est­ed seek­ers were sup­posed to find local Friends if every­thing was locked down on pri­vate net­works, one of them sug­gest­ed there should be an email list. I’m glad I was­n’t drink­ing any cof­fee at that moment because I would have had a real-life spit take. My first Quak­er orga­niz­ing thir­ty years ago was putting togeth­er an email con­tact list first for YAFs in my area and then world­wide because I did­n’t see any­one else doing it. Back then local YAF net­works were invis­i­ble to out­siders because the web as we know it bare­ly exist­ed. One could argue that GenZ has rein­vent­ed the pri­va­cy but also invis­i­bil­i­ty of the 1990s.

But grant­i­ng the “uni-context” con­ceit for argu­ment, this is a big post of Quak­er plain­ness. Yes there were most­ly unwrit­ten rules but if you open up an old copy of one of the *Books of Dis­ci­pline* and turn to the plain­ness sec­tion, you’ll find that it focus­es on inten­tion. My favorite query asks if you dress in a way “cal­cu­lat­ed to please a vain and wan­ton mind.”

It is the Quak­er con­cept of *intregri­ty* at play. Going back to root mean­ings, some­thing that is inte­gral can­not be bro­ken into pieces with­out los­ing its iden­ti­ty. We should act and present our­selves in the same way in all con­text. Who we are should be who we are, whether at work, play, church, etc. Sim­i­lar­ly our *yeas* should be *yeas* and our *nays* *nays* in all con­text so that we don’t need a spe­cial incan­ta­tion of swear­ing to tell the absolute truth. 

Of course our lives are com­plex. I’m a run­ner and I put on run­ning gear when I go out, espe­cial­ly in the August heat. But I’m not doing that for a cal­cu­lat­ed rea­son but a prac­ti­cal one. And I often have a pre-run run­ning shirt on when I log into a work Zoom call. 

Any­way it’s sort of sad that so many Friends have con­signed old Quak­er prac­tices to the dust heap. The ethics, if not the details, might be some­thing philoso­phers are seek­ing today. 

Finding the Sweet Harmony in Friends Worship

August 5, 2026

I interview John Helding on the Quaker Talk podcast about “worship fluid” Quakerism.

The new issue of Friends Jour­nal is up. I wrote the Among Friends intro this month, wax­ing lyri­cal­ly on the “son­ic land­scape” of my meet­ing in August:

The sounds of our August silence are far from pure. Although the calls of red-shouldered hawks can be a bit harsh, hear­ing them reminds me that a fam­i­ly shares the trees of our bur­ial ground. The crunch of the grav­el in the dri­ve­way reas­sures me that one of our per­pet­u­al late-comers is about to join our fel­low­ship. Not all the sounds are nat­ur­al, of course. Once or twice in the hour some­one will red­line a motor­cy­cle on the street out­side, the whiny revs and gear changes drift­ing over to bounce inside our wor­ship space. I usu­al­ly try to tune out this sound, but some­times I smile instead, know­ing that some­one is hav­ing fun on a hot sum­mer day. I say a lit­tle prayer for their safe­ty and wish them well.

I’ve also record­ed a new episode of my author video pod­cast with John Held­ing, who wrote How Can I Keep from Singing? The Mar­velous Mys­tery of Worship-Fluid Meet­ings. He tells a great sto­ry of going from a very died-in-the wool unpro­grammed meet­ing to Lopez Island Wor­ship Group (now full Quak­er meet­ing) that sched­uled month­ly singing wor­ship and wor­ship shar­ing. I think I’m always going to pre­fer the mod­el of sit­ting down qui­et­ly and wait­ing for the Holy Spir­it but I do appre­ci­ate that it’s hard to build up a meet­ing cul­ture that invites min­istry. I’m hap­py that the wor­ship shar­ing at Lopez Island helped uncork nascent min­istry in the stan­dard, open worship. 

As I wrote a few years ago, I think min­istry should be an expect­ed mir­a­cle and not have quite so high a bar that peo­ple are intim­i­dat­ed from speak­ing. It takes prac­tice to know when min­istry is Spirit-led and maybe part of that prac­tice is not always get­ting it right. I know some meet­ings face the oppo­site prob­lem: min­istry that is per­haps too fre­quent and too head­strong and inap­pro­pri­ate. But a Friends Meet­ing is a bit like a choir in that it is always need­ing cre­ative rene­go­ti­a­tion to find the sweet har­mo­ny. We are a cho­sen fam­i­ly that just shows up every week, with peo­ple expe­ri­enced and new work­ing and learn­ing how to hold the body together.

Reddit Thread on Quakers and Generative AI Art

August 4, 2026

An inter­est­ing Red­dit thread on “Quak­ers and Gen­er­a­tive AI Art” by user balsawoodspirit.

I encour­age Friends to please remem­ber that Gen­er­a­tive AI art is pro­duced uneth­i­cal­ly from AI mod­els that scrape the work of real artists with­out con­sent or com­pen­sa­tion. In the last few weeks, I have encoun­tered two instances of Quak­ers using Gen­er­a­tive AI as a part of their Out­reach. This is deeply dis­turb­ing to me. There is no legit­i­mate rea­son to use Gen­er­a­tive AI Art. You can use open source images, you can hire artists, or you can make your own art. Or, use no art at all. Bet­ter that than to steal from artists and dis­play art you hand no hand in making.

My Face­book feed is awash in ter­ri­ble AI art accom­pa­nied by ter­ri­ble AI-written feel-good sto­ries, shared as much by Quak­ers as by any oth­er demo­graph­ic (my bad for still being on there, perhaps).

Quak­erism is a spir­i­tu­al­i­ty that requires active par­tic­i­pa­tion. You can’t just nod off in the back (well, you can but you should­n’t). Quak­er com­mu­ni­ties have been lived expe­ri­ences. As some­one who works dai­ly with writ­ers, it’s stun­ning just how much AI has become a crutch for peo­ple. There are some very active writ­ers in Quak­er online spaces whose work is most­ly AI. Is it for the social boost that comes from being ubiquitous?

A weird tan­gent but hear me out: if you read a lot of clas­sic Quak­er jour­nals, there’s fre­quent­ly sto­ries from their teens in which the author con­scious­ly wres­tles with plain dress. They talk about the lost friend­ships that came when they adopt­ed a more uni­form style and also about how hard it is to dis­cern and nav­i­gate the inevitable voice of pride inside them­selves (look at me, I’m plain!) with their legit­i­mate wish and lead­ing to be of use to the fel­low­ship. That process of wrestling with ego is some­thing that nev­er ends for any of us, but espe­cial­ly not one of these min­is­ters. Know­ing when min­istry is Spirit-led or ego-fed is a core com­pe­ten­cy for this work. In the end, the dress did­n’t mat­ter so much. But the “baby steps” of wor­ry­ing about it was an ear­ly work­out of those dis­cern­ment muscles.

When we turn to AI we stop work­ing those mus­cles and offload so much to the machine. Skip­ping the baby steps means we’re not nec­es­sar­i­ly going to be as prac­ticed when impor­tant deci­sions need to be made. Let’s put out bad art if it means we’ll start learn­ing how to put out more authen­tic art as we develop.

U.S, Quaker Colleges Responding to War in the 1940s

July 31, 2026

From Sergei Grushko, a look at the choic­es of Quak­er insti­tu­tions in a time of war:

World War II pre­sent­ed a severe chal­lenge for Amer­i­can col­leges. But per­haps no group faced a more dif­fi­cult dilem­ma than the insti­tu­tions of high­er edu­ca­tion found­ed by Quak­ers. How could they rec­on­cile a centuries-old wit­ness to peace with the need to survive?

I didn’t know much of this his­to­ry and nev­er thought about the exis­ten­tial threats to high­er edu­ca­tion in the 1940s when cam­pus­es were large­ly emp­tied of their male students.

The Peaceable Kingdom Lost

June 30, 2026

A sto­ry by Charles Fox of just a few of the mas­sacres of Indige­nous peo­ple in Penn­syl­va­nia in the late 1700s. While the Friends and Mora­vians often har­bored endan­gered Susque­han­nock, their paci­fism meant they were large­ly unable to stop the maraud­ing Scots-Irish who were doing the killing.

As one his­to­ri­an wrote:

The fron­tier did col­lapse in late 1763. The sur­prise was that the armed mob that descend­ed from the fron­tier into Lan­cast­er — and then to Philadel­phia in 1764 — were White fron­tiers­men. Every­body had expect­ed it would be Indians.

Even more trag­i­cal­ly, a few of the peo­ple who escaped the mobs end­ed up being slaugh­tered in lat­er attacks. Much of the colo­nial gov­ern­ment was­n’t Quak­er in the lat­ter half of the cen­tu­ry, includ­ing some of William Pen­n’s descen­dants. Still, Friends today can won­der whether the high-minded promis­es of eter­nal friend­ship between Quak­ers and Indige­nous Peo­ples were more hol­low and aspi­ra­tional than we’d like to admit. (Of course most of the Lenape and Susque­han­nock died from European-imported dis­eases, with every boat­load of set­tlers bring­ing more death to the orig­i­nal inhabitants.)

Johan Maurer: Whose faith? Whose practice?

April 16, 2026

Johan Mau­r­er brings up a ques­tion in a post about what was the Lon­don Year­ly Meet­ing’s book of Chris­t­ian Faith and Prac­tice. He asks whether our prac­tices should be treat­ed as mod­els we’d expect oth­er Chris­tians to fol­low.

I sup­pose that in either case, Chris­t­ian or Quak­er, the pre­vail­ing assump­tion was that these books are for inter­nal use among Friends. This is who we are, more or less. But what I like about the title Chris­t­ian Faith and Prac­tice is anoth­er inter­pre­ta­tion entire­ly, one I have no per­mis­sion or evi­dence to pro­pose: this way of faith and life is not just for us; it’s rec­om­mend­ed for all Chris­tians.

I’d argue a strong yes to this. When I think about what ancient Quak­er odd­i­ties might still be rel­e­vant, one of the ques­tions I ask myself is whether we could argue that the whole church should also adopt the prac­tice (how­ev­er unlike­ly that might be in real­i­ty). If it’s just some Quak­er canard, we can toss it into an antiq­ui­ty dust­bin. But if all Chris­tians should be fol­low­ing the prac­tice, then let’s set the example.

I like Thomas Clarkson’s his­tor­i­cal account of Friends par­tic­u­lar­ly because he’s not writ­ing for a Quak­er audi­ence. I get the feel­ing he’s hold­ing our prac­tices up for scruti­ny, as if to say that maybe every­one should be fol­low­ing them and indeed, his paci­fism and abo­li­tion­ism were great­ly influ­enced by the Friends he met in his work.

Of course this wit­ness to oth­er Chris­tians sort of falls apart if we don’t con­sid­er our­selves Chris­t­ian. If online dis­course is any indi­ca­tion, there are large num­bers of Quak­ers who are rather obliv­i­ous that almost all of our Quak­er iden­ti­ty has a bib­li­cal basis (selec­tive, of course, and also inter­pret­ed, debat­ed and chang­ing). Quak­erism is seen as some­thing that just ran­dom­ly popped up in the world. None of the ear­ly Friends would have thought that.