Reviving Queer Worship

October 15, 2025

In my lat­est author pod­cast inter­view, I talk with R.E. Mar­tin and Jason A. Ter­ry about the efforts to bring back wor­ship focused specif­i­cal­ly on the queer com­mu­ni­ty to Friends Meet­ing of Wash­ing­ton (FMW). I espe­cial­ly appre­ci­ate the work of con­nect­ing with elders who par­tic­i­pat­ed in this wor­ship in decades past — through the worst of the AIDS epi­dem­ic and through the strug­gle for grow­ing accep­tance of the 1990s.

You can watch the full episode of my talk with R.E. and Jason and read their arti­cle, “Advices and Que[e]ries: Cho­sen Fam­i­ly and Cho­sen Ances­tors.”

The Octo­ber issue of Friends Jour­nal is specif­i­cal­ly about affin­i­ty groups: how and why and when we might break off into wor­ship groups that specif­i­cal­ly include and exclude Friends. Octo­ber authors Vanes­sa Julye and Cur­tis Spence are inter­viewed as part of this mon­th’s Quak­ers Today pod­cast episode, “Quak­ers & Affin­i­ty Spaces: Find­ing Whole­ness in a Sep­a­rat­ed World.

South Jersey Trips

September 26, 2025

Odds and ends: last week­end my Friends meet­ing took a trip to John Wool­man Asso­ci­a­tion in Mount Hol­ly, New Jer­sey, ded­i­cat­ed to the 18th cen­tu­ry Quak­er abo­li­tion­ist; high­ly rec­om­mend­ed if you’re in the area. On the way out of town I vis­it­ed the Shinn Cur­tis Log House from 1712, which was so encased by addi­tions over the cen­turies that the orig­i­nal house was for­got­ten until demo­li­tion of the lat­er house in the late 1960s. 

My state pub­lic media PBS sta­tion has announced they’re ceas­ing oper­a­tions next year, hit hard by both fed­er­al and state bud­get cuts. Wedged between two top-five U.S. media mar­kets (New York and Philly), statewide news is often an after­thought to their sta­tions, so our PBS has been impor­tant. It’s also com­mis­sioned lots of quirky local his­to­ry doc­u­men­taries. In oth­er media news, I’m excit­ed for next year’s Man­dalo­ri­an movie, though my two Star Wars kids are wor­ried that the trail­er is too cute.

Glad to see my new col­league Ren­zo Car­ran­za in the lat­est Quak­er­S­peak.

Standing with the Marginalized, with Anthony Manousos)

September 22, 2025

This week I talked with my old Friend Antho­ny Manousos about the [waves hand in the air] polit­i­cal sit­u­a­tion we’re in. I’ve known Antho­ny for over 28 years now, back when we were part of a con­fer­ence to try to kick-start what lat­er was reborn as Quak­er Vol­un­tary Ser­vice (spoil­er: our attempt failed for what I think were most­ly gen­er­a­tional issues). Antho­ny is still protest­ing and wit­ness­ing to make a bet­ter world. I loved hear­ing his sto­ry of coali­tion work and the joy of orga­niz­ing with music. His arti­cle, “We Have No King,” appears in this mon­th’s Friends Jour­nal

I asked him what Quak­ers bring to protests:

One of the impor­tant things that we bring is our way of wor­ship. And our way of wor­ship helps to bring the tem­per­a­ture down. I think what the cur­rent regime wants is a vio­lent move­ment oppos­ing them. That plays out what they want (and cer­tain­ly the assas­si­na­tion of Char­lie Kirk plays into that sce­nario). What Quak­ers bring is a com­mit­ment to peace­ful protest. And when we’re around, we can be that strong, com­mit­ted, peace­ful pres­ence. And that’s important.

I also asked him a follow-up ques­tion of what we need to do to get out of the way and accept the lead­er­ship of oth­ers in social change. You can lis­ten to his answers or read them in the show notes

A Journey of Conscience: Ron Marullo’s Story

September 16, 2025

I talked with Friends Jour­nal author Ronald Marul­lo this week. His arti­cle, “I Aint’ March­ing Any­more” (a nod to Phil Ochs of course), recounts his path to con­sci­en­tious objec­tion dur­ing the Viet­nam war, helped by a very knowl­edgable Quak­er coun­selor. It always amazes me that just a few con­ver­sa­tions at the right time can help some­one clar­i­fy their beliefs and set their lives on a dif­fer­ent path.

I was espe­cial­ly inter­est­ed in talk­ing about the after-effects of the CO process since I went through some­thing sim­i­lar myself. Around age 17 my father start­ed lob­by­ing hard for me to go to the Naval Acad­e­my at Annapo­lis. Except for a few years in Pres­by­ter­ian Sun­day School we had grown up most­ly a‑religious and I found the idea intrigu­ing. I think in ret­ro­spect I was most­ly excit­ed by the idea of an order­ly life that might address my ADHD (called hyper­ac­tiv­i­ty in those days). I got far enough into the process to take a phys­i­cal and get a let­ter of com­men­da­tion from our con­gressper­son but then thought more about the mil­i­tary itself. I real­ized I did­n’t feel com­fort­able join­ing an orga­ni­za­tion whose pur­pose was threat­en­ing to kill. I had on prin­ci­ple, and with­out much delib­er­a­tion, decid­ed not to engage in school­yard fights years before, and suf­fered the reg­u­lar humil­i­a­tions that comes of being the small­est kid in class who every­one knows won’t fight back. To the dis­ap­point­ment of my father I stopped the appli­ca­tion process for the navy. As I pon­dered what to do next, I asked myself what oth­er val­ues might come from my new­found paci­fism. Over the next few years I explored var­i­ous leads and — being in the Philadel­phia area — start­ed run­ning into Quak­ers, some of whom had a kind of inner con­vic­tion I found intriguing.

So while I was far too young to ever wor­ry about a draft, I did have a sim­i­lar defin­ing “what do I believe” moment as a teenag­er. As Ron says in our author chat pod­cast:

That was a turn­ing point in my life. I made deci­sions from fill­ing out those forms and answer­ing those ques­tions actu­al­ly made con­crete what I had inside me, ide­al­ly. You think about this and think about that and whether or not you hold it true. But when you have to put it all on paper and you have to sub­mit it to the world, it changes you. And I’ve lived by that phi­los­o­phy since that age. I’ve done it in my edu­ca­tion­al expe­ri­ence with chil­dren. I’ve done it in my pri­vate life with friends, care­giv­ing oth­ers. My wife and I have been doing that, you know, for decades.

Black Resistance to Quaker Enslavement

August 4, 2025

Nice detec­tive work in this arti­cle by Jim Fussell. In recent years, we’ve flipped the tra­di­tion­al script of Friends as unal­loyed sav­iors for their work on man­u­mis­sions and the abo­li­tion of slav­ery. We now affirm that many held slaves begin­ning in 1655, when Quak­er mis­sion­ar­ies Ann Austin and Mary Fish­er land­ed on the heav­i­ly enslaved island of Bar­ba­dos and con­vinced a num­ber of the White enslavers to become Friends. A few years lat­er Mary Fish­er then went on trav­el to Turkey to try to con­vince the sul­tan of the Ottoman Empire. Despite her amaz­ing brav­ery, in her will Fish­er named a “Indi­an girle Slave, named Reigner.” .

We now talk about the era in which Quak­ers were slave­hold­ers but Jim goes a step fur­ther to talk about the enslaved Africans’ resis­tance to Quak­er enslavers. In an era in which we’re once more appar­ent­ly debat­ing if vio­lence against prop­er­ty is okay, the sto­ry of two enslaved women, Grace and Jane, burn­ing a plan­ta­tion tobac­co barn seems almost quaint­ly direct action.

When a Philadelphia Hostel Provided Refuge for Victims of Internment Camps

July 31, 2025

Great sto­ry in Hid­den City Philadel­phia about Quak­er aid to government-displaced Japan­ese Amer­i­cans dur­ing WW2. A coali­tion of peace activists, Quak­ers, and reli­gious pro­gres­sives opened a hos­tel in West Philly and orga­nized col­lege admis­sions to area schools.

Navigating Gender Transition as a Quaker

July 13, 2025

New from Quak­er­S­peak, an inter­view with Willa Taber:

Joy was my guide­post through my tran­si­tion,” Willa reflects. “I real­ized that at the age of 70, I was too old to post­pone joy. I real­ized short­ly after that that at four years old, I was too old to post­pone joy, but I didn’t know it then.

Willa was one of the reg­u­lar Quak­er blog­gers back in the day1. I had most­ly lost touch, only hear­ing third hand of the tran­si­tion some­where. I’m glad she’s doing well and still wit­ness­ing to the Truth as revealed to her.

Influencing Quakers

July 2, 2025

Philadel­phia Year­ly Meet­ing and Friends in Busi­ness spon­sored a two-person pan­el last night called “Quak­er Voic­es, Dig­i­tal Paths” and fea­tur­ing Glo­ria Sul­li­van, who has over 600,000 fol­low­ers across Tik­Tok and Insta­gram, and Grif­fin Macaulay, con­tent cre­ator for Dun­geons and Drag­ons. Glo­ria does­n’t gen­er­al­ly talk about being a Quak­er on her chan­nel but did in Jan­u­ary. It’s had over 300,000 views and a stag­ger­ing 6,042 comments. 

The scale of the new­er forms of online media is real­ly stag­ger­ing, as is the sim­plic­i­ty of start­ing a chan­nel. There’s no need to incor­po­rate or find fun­ders or write mis­sion state­ments: you just start talk­ing to the com­put­er. It quick­ly becomes all-consuming of course, and there’s a lot of thought that goes into the top­ics and scope of the chan­nel. All the pop­u­lar Tik­Toks also have lots of edits to speed them up. It’s a lot of work to do this part or full-time.

Grif­fin talked about being known for a thing and remain­ing pas­sion­ate about it even in a vac­u­um. It’s the follow-your-passion advice: lov­ing what you do will pull peo­ple to you and you will find a way to turn it into a business.

In some ways, I feel that at least some of the work my col­leagues and I are doing 2is akin to an out­field­er scan­ning the sky for pop balls com­ing in from these inter­net men­tions. When a pop­u­lar influ­encer talks about Quak­ers I’m sure hun­dreds of fin­gers open a new tab to ask “What is a Quak­er?” and “What Do Quak­ers Believe?” We hope­ful­ly show up in the search with easily-digestible answers and links to Quak­er com­mu­ni­ties. I asked Glo­ria and Grif­fin for ideas about how we could bet­ter sup­port inquir­ers they might send our way. We’re doing a lot already — good search engine opti­miza­tion, catchy URLs — but there was some good advice on using Insta­gram bet­ter and real­ly sim­pli­fy­ing our mes­sag­ing and turn­ing it into stories.