Finding the Sweet Harmony in Friends Worship

August 5, 2026

I interview John Helding on the Quaker Talk podcast about “worship fluid” Quakerism.

The new issue of Friends Jour­nal is up. I wrote the Among Friends intro this month, wax­ing lyri­cal­ly on the “son­ic land­scape” of my meet­ing in August:

The sounds of our August silence are far from pure. Although the calls of red-shouldered hawks can be a bit harsh, hear­ing them reminds me that a fam­i­ly shares the trees of our bur­ial ground. The crunch of the grav­el in the dri­ve­way reas­sures me that one of our per­pet­u­al late-comers is about to join our fel­low­ship. Not all the sounds are nat­ur­al, of course. Once or twice in the hour some­one will red­line a motor­cy­cle on the street out­side, the whiny revs and gear changes drift­ing over to bounce inside our wor­ship space. I usu­al­ly try to tune out this sound, but some­times I smile instead, know­ing that some­one is hav­ing fun on a hot sum­mer day. I say a lit­tle prayer for their safe­ty and wish them well.

I’ve also record­ed a new episode of my author video pod­cast with John Held­ing, who wrote How Can I Keep from Singing? The Mar­velous Mys­tery of Worship-Fluid Meet­ings. He tells a great sto­ry of going from a very died-in-the wool unpro­grammed meet­ing to Lopez Island Wor­ship Group (now full Quak­er meet­ing) that sched­uled month­ly singing wor­ship and wor­ship shar­ing. I think I’m always going to pre­fer the mod­el of sit­ting down qui­et­ly and wait­ing for the Holy Spir­it but I do appre­ci­ate that it’s hard to build up a meet­ing cul­ture that invites min­istry. I’m hap­py that the wor­ship shar­ing at Lopez Island helped uncork nascent min­istry in the stan­dard, open worship. 

As I wrote a few years ago, I think min­istry should be an expect­ed mir­a­cle and not have quite so high a bar that peo­ple are intim­i­dat­ed from speak­ing. It takes prac­tice to know when min­istry is Spirit-led and maybe part of that prac­tice is not always get­ting it right. I know some meet­ings face the oppo­site prob­lem: min­istry that is per­haps too fre­quent and too head­strong and inap­pro­pri­ate. But a Friends Meet­ing is a bit like a choir in that it is always need­ing cre­ative rene­go­ti­a­tion to find the sweet har­mo­ny. We are a cho­sen fam­i­ly that just shows up every week, with peo­ple expe­ri­enced and new work­ing and learn­ing how to hold the body together.

Becky Jones: Connecting Spirit to Spirit

December 19, 2025

I talked today with Decem­ber Friends Jour­nal author Becky Jones. Her arti­cle “The Inti­ma­cy of Prayer” appears in the cur­rent issue. I real­ly appre­ci­at­ed talk­ing about how we hold peo­ple in love, in the light, in prayer. One of my own meth­ods is just to keep a prayer list on my phone but in prep­ping this inter­view I real­ized I had­n’t con­tributed to it in a year. Wow! If for noth­ing else, I’m grate­ful to be remind­ed that I should use that list more, as it keeps me more mind­ful of loved ones and acquain­tances in my life.

Full show notes for my inter­view can be found here.

September Friends Journal

September 4, 2025

The Sep­tem­ber issue of Friends Jour­nal is out. There are a lot of sto­ries about how we get through trou­bled times. From my open­ing col­umn:

One of the roles of faith is to remem­ber that we’ve been here before. We’ve been the wan­der­ing Jews lost in the desert but fed man­na to sur­vive. We remem­ber the dis­ci­ples tak­en by sur­prise by the rush of Roman guards come to arrest our Mes­si­ah, who urged us to put away our swords. We tell sto­ries of a young George Fox wan­der­ing Eng­land look­ing for spir­i­tu­al teach­ers until all his “hopes in them and in all men were gone.” We sur­vive by telling sto­ries. We keep our­selves cen­tered and calm by remem­ber­ing oth­ers who found a path through uncer­tain­ty and assured us they were held up by a Comforter.

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Are Quakers Christian?

April 15, 2019

Steven Davi­son takes on one of the trick­i­er ques­tions of mod­ern lib­er­al Quakerism:

I am going to make a bold apol­o­gy for a clar­i­fied lib­er­al Quak­er iden­ti­ty that retains its roots and recov­ers wor­ship in the spir­it of Christ, but yet releas­es us from the ortho­dox Chris­t­ian pre­oc­cu­pa­tions that no longer speak to so many unpro­grammed Friends. 

Are Quak­ers Christian?

Liberty of the Spirit

March 28, 2019

Every once in awhile a Quak­er­S­peak video comes along that reminds me why I was blown away when I first got to know Quak­ers. Ayesha Imani talks about the first time she wor­shiped with Friends: 

I thought I had wan­dered into a group of peo­ple who actu­al­ly believed that God was able to speak direct­ly to them. I remem­ber say­ing, “Oh my God, this is Pen­te­cost!” I couldn’t believe that these peo­ple think God is actu­al­ly gll­l­l­l­lo­ing to speak to them! I’m down for this. This is where I belong. 

Most of the Quak­ers read­ing this can prob­a­bly guess where this is going – she pret­ty quick­ly got a les­son in the unwrit­ten norms against exu­ber­ance at many Quak­er meet­ings, the rules that pre­vent many expres­sions of wor­ship. Ayesha’s Black and many of the stric­tures on behav­ior are pret­ty middle-class white. But a lot of this isn’t real­ly about race. I’ve been led to do some very non-ordinary things at uptight Quak­er meet­ings and feel­ing incred­i­bly self-conscious over it. When I came to Friends, I loved the idea of the rad­i­cal spon­te­nae­ity of our wor­ship (any­one can min­is­ter any­time!) and the life it called us to but in prac­tice we often are crea­tures of habit, to our detri­ment. I love Ayesha’s talk of “exper­i­ment­ing with free­dom” and the “lib­er­ty of the spir­it.” I real­ize my sto­ries of non-ordinariness are all over a decade old. I wish I felt more of that lib­er­ty again.

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Quakerly competition?

February 13, 2019

A quick update that we at Friends Jour­nal have extend­ed the dead­line for an upcom­ing issue on Friends and com­pe­ti­tion. It’s a real­ly inter­est­ing top­ic and I’d like to see some more arti­cles to choose from. In my “Edi­tor’s Desk” post try­ing to drum up writ­ing inter­est, I dug through the FJ archives to find pre­vi­ous dis­cus­sions on the top­ic. I’ll excerpt a few here:

If you look back through Friends Jour­nal archives, you’ll find warn­ings against com­pet­i­tive behav­ior. In 1955 Bess B. Lane of Swarth­more (Pa.) Meet­ing wrote that schools should “Place empha­sis on coop­er­a­tion, shar­ing, rather than on com­pe­ti­tion” and won­dered if “com­pe­ti­tion is being over­stressed in our schools.” In 1972, Christo­pher H. Ander­son, then a senior at Wilm­ing­ton Col­lege, had stronger words. He con­trast­ed his Quak­er edu­ca­tion with pub­lic schools, which he said “breed a social con­for­mi­ty, an intel­lec­tu­al bland­ness and a repug­nant spir­it of competition.”

If you know any­one who is inter­est­ed in the top­ic, please for­ward this along!

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Where do we hear God’s voice?

January 3, 2019

Angel­i­ca Brown on min­istry from unex­pect­ed sources:

I think about the peo­ple I’ve cared about who have need­ed to talk to them­selves and make nois­es. Who need to pace and say things we don’t under­stand. Spir­it is mov­ing through them, in this incar­na­tion­al way. Remind­ing them they still have bod­ies that can make nois­es, that they still can breath words into being. 

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